I was talking with one of my friends the other day and I brought up encouragement in general. We eventually narrowed the topic down to our parents ( who would have thought;). We continued talking and started sharing different thoughts about encouraging. I related to her the following...
You know, I once learned a song on my electric guitar; I was so excited about it because I had been working on it for a long time and I had finally gotten it down pretty well. I asked my mom to come listen to it.....that didn't go very well. So later on after my dad got home from work I asked him to listen to it.... I guess he gave a OK response..."oh...neat" and then just kinda forgot about it. A couple weeks later I had learned how to palm mute on my guitar ( if you don't know what that is just ignore it) I wanted to share it with someone so I called my dad in, showed it to him, then he changed the subject and asked about something I had done earlier.
I'm not slamming my dad at all, I just think that we (as a general rule) need to be more encouraging. When your younger sister shows you a picture that she drew, complement her and take a genuine interest in her drawing. When Your friend tries to tell you about her new hairstyle, ask questions about it...take a interest in what she is interested in. You will have so many people that want to be around you if you are a encouraging person! I know someone who is the definition of sweet. She is always encouraging someone in some way or another, whether by giving a hug or asking a simple question. so, when your little sister/brother shows you that painting or the song they just learned, don't think " Man, I have so many better things I could be doing right now!" and just ignore them. Instead, take time with them. Maybe we can actually be an example to our parents of an encouraging person ( I don't know...just a thought)
Hope some of this made sense...this was kinda all just coming on at one time so sorry if it meant nothing....sorry!
David :)
Wednesday, April 7, 2010
Tuesday, April 6, 2010
Relationships
Yeah, you probably saw the title and were like " Oh my gosh!! What is this weirdo going to talk about now!?"... Well, I came across a paper I had written about a month ago about relationships and I am kicking myself for not putting on here sooner. So hope this helps somebody...
In this paper I am going to try to address how relationships between boys and girls can be very healthy (contrary to the opinion some people that I talk to). In this paper I want top focus on the positive more than the negative because in time past I think I have been guilty of thinking that all relationships between boys and girls were bad. That was a very unhealthy way to live. I constantly found it difficult to carry on a decent conversation with a girl when they asked me even a simple question. It was very embarrassing when all I could do was mutter and give short answers. I was not only being rude, but I was also adapting an idea that would make it very hard to if not IMPOSSIBLE to get married in the future. All that to say that I am going to try to be very positive about relationships between guys and girls.
My first point that I wanted to mention and the one that I think is the most important is the ability to carry on a conversation with people of the opposite gender. In today's world, it is nearly impossible to work in a place with only one gender group. It would be very hard to get a job if your boss was someone you found it hard to talk to. I mean really, if you were a guy and you had a boss that was a girl wouldn't you find it difficult to them if you had practiced for 18 years not talking to people of that gender!? In order to succeed in today's day and age ( including getting married, dealing with your workmates, and dealing with your customers/employee) you really need to be able to develop good relationships with people of the opposite gender than you.
The second point that I wanted to mention is the great benefit of knowing how a different gender group deals with certain issues and situations. Hint: this will come in VERY handy when you get married!! It is very interesting and beneficial when you are discussing a project and are able to get insight from different gender groups. Girls tend to focus more on detail while guys are more apt to to focus on the efficiency of the project and how they can get it done to the best of their ability. I have found it extremely beneficial to consult people of different gender groups before starting a project. You will receive a variety of good ideas that will come in handy and possibly be better and more efficient than your original idea.
So, in closing I am going to try to balance everything out. While relationships between guys and girls are VERY important, they can also be dangerous. The good definitely outweighs the bad but I think we still need to be careful. Finally, please...PLEASE don't be standoffish toward people of the other gender but embrace them as brothers and sisters ;)
Thanks for reading and hopefully this jumbled mess of words actually meant something to someone.
In this paper I am going to try to address how relationships between boys and girls can be very healthy (contrary to the opinion some people that I talk to). In this paper I want top focus on the positive more than the negative because in time past I think I have been guilty of thinking that all relationships between boys and girls were bad. That was a very unhealthy way to live. I constantly found it difficult to carry on a decent conversation with a girl when they asked me even a simple question. It was very embarrassing when all I could do was mutter and give short answers. I was not only being rude, but I was also adapting an idea that would make it very hard to if not IMPOSSIBLE to get married in the future. All that to say that I am going to try to be very positive about relationships between guys and girls.
My first point that I wanted to mention and the one that I think is the most important is the ability to carry on a conversation with people of the opposite gender. In today's world, it is nearly impossible to work in a place with only one gender group. It would be very hard to get a job if your boss was someone you found it hard to talk to. I mean really, if you were a guy and you had a boss that was a girl wouldn't you find it difficult to them if you had practiced for 18 years not talking to people of that gender!? In order to succeed in today's day and age ( including getting married, dealing with your workmates, and dealing with your customers/employee) you really need to be able to develop good relationships with people of the opposite gender than you.
The second point that I wanted to mention is the great benefit of knowing how a different gender group deals with certain issues and situations. Hint: this will come in VERY handy when you get married!! It is very interesting and beneficial when you are discussing a project and are able to get insight from different gender groups. Girls tend to focus more on detail while guys are more apt to to focus on the efficiency of the project and how they can get it done to the best of their ability. I have found it extremely beneficial to consult people of different gender groups before starting a project. You will receive a variety of good ideas that will come in handy and possibly be better and more efficient than your original idea.
So, in closing I am going to try to balance everything out. While relationships between guys and girls are VERY important, they can also be dangerous. The good definitely outweighs the bad but I think we still need to be careful. Finally, please...PLEASE don't be standoffish toward people of the other gender but embrace them as brothers and sisters ;)
Thanks for reading and hopefully this jumbled mess of words actually meant something to someone.
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